Some folks, whether it parents, friends, co-workers or anyone who is associated with an addict sometimes do not realize how much they are actually enabling the addict.
It is of course very important that this person in our lives does understand that they have our love and our support. It is not completely wrong to offer them a ride to a meeting, to the store, etc... or to give them a place to stay for awhile. However, you do want to be very cautious of your actions that it is not something that you continue to do for weeks, months or years. You want to help them when you can, but at the same time you also want to see progress with them helping themselves.
Constantly doing everything for them, always giving them money, paying any or all of their bills is not going to help them. You can temporarily help and assist, but if you want to truly help this person, your love, you listening, you guiding and pointing them in the right direction is they only way that they can begin to gain confidence in themselves to move forward.
We know it is not always easy for us. We know that it can break our hearts in many ways and over and over again, but they need your guidance and strength in order for them to find their way, doing it for them will not help them get anywhere.
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