We Are Victims

On one of the programs that I recently watched, the sober coach asked this young man that he
was helping if he was to walk into the house and see someone attacking his mother over and over and
over again, what would he do. He answered that he would do all he could to get him off of her and likely beat the crap out of him. He asked him another question "If you could see that this attacker was going to kill your mom, would you kill him?"  And he answered that he would. He told this young man that his drugs is the attacker! That every time he uses, over and over again, that his mom is being attacked and beatin down.

We had an episode here at the house about 8 months ago... I work here from home and have for quite awhile now. I help other folks that also want to work for themselves and so I had this lady call me and tell me a little bit about herself, her background and why she was needing to earn additional income. She was recently divorced, had children, couldn't afford daycare and definitely in need to do something really soon.  And so we scheduled to talk later that evening so that I can educate her further on what we could possibly do to help her.

A couple hours before my appointment with her, we had a really bad situation come up. My (ad) was clearly using and one thing lead to another, arguing, fighting, name calling, just a big blow up that completely wiped me out emotionally. I was so upset, so sick to my stomach, so unsure of what to do, just totally hurt and numb from the whole incident.  I forgot about my appointment with this lady.

My point simply is that when you have someone that is a user/addict in your life, it affects so many people. People that are very close, family members, friends, and it will even affect those that you may not even know. It becomes a trickle down affect. It can affect your own job, your own relationships with friends or co-workers, your marriage, your own health. The snowball just keeps rolling and continues to roll over many lives.

We too are victims or I have heard some call us hostages.

I forgive my (ad). As of right now she has been at rehab for 5 months. Hopefully coming home in approx 4 weeks. I'm still ready to fight, but I will be fighting for her.